Have you ever watched someone do something that they and you know is bad for them? Don't you want to just shake them and say, "Don't do that. It's bad for you."
A suggestion that perhaps they should give up this habit is frequently meant with defensiveness, anger, self-justification.
I've been in that situation many times. I get frustrated, even angry. And then I had an epiphany. I have my own addictions, though I am loathe to name them as such. I am defensive about giving them up. I am angry if someone suggests that they are hurting me. I justify those addictions, because, of course, my addictions, are understandable.
In short, I am proud of them, even love them. How pathetic is that?
Joy for today: recognizing addictions, the first step in giving them up.