Do you find yourself peppering your oonversations with "should haves" and "could haves?" I do. It seems my life is made up of should haves and could haves. I have a dear friend who advises "Don't should on yourself."
The truth is, should haves and could haves are a kind of resentment. Resentment at ourselves. Resentment at others. I have a list of should haves and could haves in my life. A few days ago, I wrote about one, when I failed to act on an impulse to do something for someone else, only to learn that she died a few days later. Instead of dwelling on the "shoulds," I would be better off spending my time in finding new ways to help someone else.
The shoulds and coulds that I didn't do fill me with regret. How much better off would I be if I worked with purpose, instead of being consumed with regret?
This I know for sure: focusing on shoulds and coulds takes time and energy from doing.
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